In one of my counseling sessions, my therapist thought it may be helpful to create a list of my wounds that stemmed from my parents’ divorce.  When I heard the word “list,” I then thought of the word “litany.”  Thus, the idea was born to turn this list into a litany prayer. This helped in two ways: first, I was able to approach God in a tangible way to ask for healing and begin to receive it. And second, it was a “leave no stone unturned” experience where I could shed light on those wounds that were festering.

In a recent study put out by the Center for Economic Studies, data shows that children of divorced parents have an elevated risk of jail time, elevated risk of mortality, increased risk of teen birth, and reduced adult earnings...This study marks a milestone in our scientific community’s recognition of divorce as a trauma...and is a great piece of scientific leverage for our ministry to stand on.

For those not married who believe they are called to marriage, you may know quite well the brokenness that keeps you in patterns that delay your readiness for the type of relationship that would lead into marriage.  In whichever category you find yourself, I submit that marriage has the potential to offer you significant healing.  For those who are married, when your marriage becomes difficult, and it will, the key is to turn toward – not from – your spouse.  The more you turn toward your spouse, with Christ, the more healing you will find.  This is because holy matrimony is a sacrament that heals, and it heals through the communion and sacrificial suffering modeled after Christ’s own sacrificial suffering to restore communion between us and God.

"The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves," by Curt Thompson, has been an important part of my healing journey. I picked up the book on the recommendation of a friend and a deep desire to dig into the pain of shame that was touching every part of my life. My heart was sore. I was on the path of recovery from habitual sin that had infiltrated my life for half a decade.

"Work is for man, not man for work. Everyone should be able to draw from work the means of providing for his life and that of his family, and of serving the human community” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, no. 2428)